Change your Rule Book…

Changing your inner rule book could be the key to changing your behaviour…

Children that experience behavioural issues do not usually know why they are behaving the way they do. They could have a lot of built up emotions and negative thought patters in their sub-conscious mind. I like to describe this as our inner rule book, where over time we have set rules in place for ourselves on a sub-conscious level.

These rules can be quite damaging, to give you some examples:

  • “I am not lovable” could make you push love away and struggle to share love with others.
  • “I get it wrong” could make you question everything you do and possibly not even attempt trying because you have already decided that you will get it wrong.
  • “People don’t listen to me” could cause attention seeking behaviours or the want to dis-connect from everyone because what’s the point? No one listens to me anyway.
  • “I can’t do it” could make you resist anything in your path, you don’t want to take on anyone’s suggestions because you cannot do it anyway.
  • “I am not safe” – this can block you from being calm in most situations because if you do not feel safe, you will be ready to fight or flight out of any situation.

Kinesiology can identify what rules your child has set in place for themselves. This gives brilliant insight as to what is causing some of these behaviours.

Behavioural issues can be a rollercoaster. When new, positive rules are set in place, the body and mind can be resistant. Generally, we feel comfortable with what we have already manifested for ourselves. New information, new beliefs and change can be challenging on the body. A lot of us fear change and if that has been passed on, one way or another, then that is first thing to address, because if we do not want to change, we will try anything we can to stop it. Certainly, if there is anything constant in our world, that is change.